“If you don’t like something, change it;
if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”
I have never been good with change. Even now, after so much inner work, I struggle sometimes to deal with change. For me this comes for several reasons: first and foremost my default need to keep safe by avoiding risk. Change creates too many unknowns which makes it harder to mitigate risks. The control freak in me doesn’t sit happily with change that has been instigated by others (but I’m brilliant with change that I have initiated). The perfectionist in me knows that change will mean having to learn a new way to do something perfectly and during the learning curve things won’t be perfect. The achiever in me knows how to perform in the current environment; will I be able to do so in the new one? So many obstacles.
It has taken a lot of growth for me to effectively deal with change. Even self-imposed change; like embarking on a life of full-time travel is stressful. So how did I get better at dealing with it – even though my default is fight it? Well, for me it was the realisation that the best way to cope with change was to be part of the change. Today, once I recognise and get over my initial need to fight a change; I accept and immediately see where can I be involved in implementing that change. This way I get to have some influence. I can’t stop the change but I can ensure that it happens in a way that is conducive to growth and improvement.
Watch Episode 10 of The Flying Phoenix’s Weekly Facebook Live Broadcast and find out about some of the specific steps I took. (Due to technical issues at the time of broadcast, some of the audio isn’t clear.)
What are your thoughts?
I would love to hear from you. What has your experience been with this topic? Do you have some tips or strategies in addition to the one’s mentioned above? Maybe you have a burning question? Perhaps you have the solution to someone else’s question.
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