Have you ever felt like you are expressing love to someone, but you don’t feel like you’re being heard? Or maybe your partner is saying that they love you, but you are somehow not feeling it to be true? This may be because you each speak a different love language.

The concept of different love languages was pioneered by Dr. Gary Chapman in his best-selling book, The Five Love Languages. The book teaches that we have different ways in which we feel loved and appreciated; as well as how we show love and appreciation. Partners who speak different love languages may inadvertently misunderstand each other’s love messages. The five love languages are: Words of Affirmation, Personal Touch, Quality Time, Acts of Service and Gifts.

Understanding your love language will also help you to practice self-love in a language that will most effectively build your confidence and self-worth.

Take the Love Languages assessment and find out your primary love language. You’ll also get some practical advice on how to practice self-love in your own language; so that you can start nurturing yourself the way you deserve today.

For each pair of statements, select the ONE answer that fits best within your relationship.

*If you are not currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were or think about how you like to be treated by family and friends.